All personal change begins with self-reflection. And before technology, there was plenty of time to self-reflect and explore the mind. Mythology became a way to explain the unexplainable, and a way for people to make sense of emotions and relationships. By using myths, you’re able to stay objective to your thoughts, feelings, and experiences that can help you become more self-aware. This active style of meditation where you engage in a conversation with a myth or other higher-being about yourself and your life is a powerful form of self-reflection. From this vantage point, you’re able to see both your darkness and your light to decide what needs to change and what needs to stay the same. You can explore ideas or create stories by engaging your active imagination with myths and higher-beings. For these reasons, myths are the core of Greed & Generosity. While you may recognize the names of the myths, they are not exactly the same as what you’ve read elsewhere because Greed & Generosity is my story.
Personal development has always been about being better. But, it has become more about strategies, checklists, and the desired outcome (to be happier, have more money, etc.); leaving the dark emotions of loss and trauma ignored. Change is both a loss and a gain. When you lose something, you grieve, even if it leads to something better. I believe focusing on the desired outcome is ego driven and setting people up for failure, making personal development an addiction; creating a multi-billion dollar a year industry.
When you begin focusing on your dark emotions, you begin a winding journey inward, exploring your mind. And for many, the mind is unexplored and terrifying. It becomes easier to create a plan of your desired outcome than to identify what you’re feeling. But, those feelings never go away and they can show themselves in other ways, such as,
𐇲 Saying everyone else is stupid,
𐇲 Passive-aggression, and
𐇲 Emotional and physical violence.
Emotions become dark with pain and pain is something we all try to avoid. We’ll ignore the feelings of unease, sadness, or fear by focusing on something else or by medicating ourselves. Neither one erases the pain or promotes growth. You become stuck, repeating the same patterns and waiting for someone else to pull you out. However, the only one who can pull you out is you. This is not a quick fix blog nor a traditional blog filled with lists and quick tips. This is a serial blog of mythical stories and conversations with active meditation exercises designed to guide you inward to learn your mind and connect with your soul. The psychology woven throughout Greed & Generosity is taken from Carl Jung, Marie-Louise von Franz, James Hillman, and other psychologists from Jungian, Depth, and Personality Psychology. If you are just starting out on your personal development journey, Tasha Eurich’s book, Insight: Why We’re Not as Self-Aware as We Think, and How Seeing Ourselves Clearly Helps Us Succeed at Work and in Life and Danielle Laporte’s Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul are excellent places to start. If you want more of the psychology, books by the psychologists listed above will give you what you need.
Within our minds, we can connect with the spiritual plane with intention, imagination, and curiosity. The dark myths represent the dark emotions of emotional trauma. Whereas, light myths created and represent the Dark Tetrad (narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellian, & sadism). You may never get closer from the person who harmed you but you can work through it and become more self-aware to avoid a repeat experience. When you connect with the dark myths, you’re able to explore and neutralize the emotions caused by malevolent and unaware people; healing your roots as you grow into the light.